Tuesday, February 10, 2015

YOU MIGHT BE SABOTAGING THE CHANGES YOU WANT YOUR PARTNER TO MAKE

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Want your partner to change? You might accidentally be hurting your cause. Here's what to do differently. 

I've noticed a pattern in human behavior: we want people to change, but then we make it hard for them to do so. For example, a mother may want her son to stop lying, but reacts angrily when he's honest about his mistakes, shaming him and removing his motivation to tell the truth. Or a husband may want his wife to be more sexual, but contributes to her exhaustion and detachment by not helping with the kids, doing housework, or communicating affection throughout the day.

Friday, January 23, 2015

5 REASONS TO TRY WEBCAM THERAPY

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In the age of social media and smartphones, so much of our lives revolves around technology. Marriage and family therapy has never been a field to lag behind: online webcam sessions are increasingly common. Many people enjoy meeting with their counselor from the comfort of their own home or office. Here are five reasons why you should consider signing up for an online session.

Thursday, January 15, 2015

20 MOVIES THAT'LL STRENGTHEN YOUR MARRIAGE


Hollywood favors "falling in love" stories rather than "staying in love" stories. Healthy, long-lasting marriages are far too often viewed by Tinseltown as dramatically stale, but there are exceptions to this rule. Below are 20 of my favorite  cinematic depictions of what it takes to make love last. Click on the titles to buy the films, and enjoy!

Thursday, January 8, 2015

WHY DEPRESSION MAKES EASY TASKS DIFFICULT (AND HOW TO FIGHT IT)


THE WEIGHT OF DEPRESSION

Could you eat a bowl of cereal? Of course you can, it's so easy! Now imagine that I've strapped heavy weights to your arms. Could you still do it? If the weight were heavy enough, how long would it take before your arms started shaking and you gave up in exhaustion?

In this scenario, no one would say that a person is weak because they can't finish a bowl of cereal while weighed down, nor would they say that the cereal itself is the problem. Yet persons suffering from depression often belittle themselves because the simplest task seems insurmountable. They see themselves as pathetic, failing to accept that it's the weight of depression, not the task itself, that they struggle with.

Tuesday, December 30, 2014

MAKING YOUR NEW YEAR'S RESOLUTIONS STICK


There are countless stories and jokes about abandoned New Year's resolutions, perhaps because the experience is so universal. When it comes to self-improvement, it seems that "the spirit is willing but the flesh is weak." So how do we overcome weakness to fulfill our goals? Allow me to share with you five keys which have helped my clients, myself, and others, to follow through. ("Writing down your goals down" is a given, so you won't see it below).

Sunday, December 14, 2014

WHAT JESUS WANTS FOR HIS BIRTHDAY


I'm not sure how I'd feel if, for my birthday, my friends gave gifts to everyone but me. Yet that's exactly what Christ wants. One of his most familiar teachings gains fresh meaning when applied to the Christmas season:

Saturday, December 6, 2014

ALL HANDS ON DECK - My Poem about Despair, Redemption, & Christ

Image credit: "Stilling the Storm," by Ted Henninger

Jonathan's note: Although I am a deeply religious person, I have the utmost respect for those who do not share my beliefs. I share this deeply personal poem, which I wrote years ago in a time of personal turmoil, in the hope that it will bring spiritual relief to those looking for such.