Want your partner to change? You might accidentally be hurting your cause. Here's what to do differently.
I've noticed a pattern in human behavior: we want people to change, but then we make it hard for them to do so. For example, a mother may want her son to stop lying, but reacts angrily when he's honest about his mistakes, shaming him and removing his motivation to tell the truth. Or a husband may want his wife to be more sexual, but contributes to her exhaustion and detachment by not helping with the kids, doing housework, or communicating affection throughout the day.